Hello Deep Thinker,
Today is part 2 of a 7 part series I am doing on Anger. My hope for this series is that you connect to what your anger feels like and what exactly your anger is telling you about your values, your needs and your desire for self-expression.
How do you KNOW when you’re feeling angry?
For me, anger feels like stuck energy—like I want to move, I want to sing, I want to throw my arms in the air, but something (or someone) is holding me back. It feels like imprisonment—like being trapped in my own body, unable to express what needs to come out.
Anger shows up differently for everyone.
How Anger Can Feel in the Body
A tight jaw—like you have to physically hold back your words.
Heat in your chest or face—like a fire rising inside you.
Shaky hands or tense muscles—like your body is preparing to fight or flee.
A racing heart—your body’s signal that something isn’t right.
A deep sense of frustration or helplessness—feeling stuck in a situation you can’t control.
Your body knows when you’re angry before your mind catches up. Learning to recognize anger is the first step to expressing it in a way that serves you.
Last week, we practiced noticing anger in your body. Today, we're going deeper!
Anger as Your Personal GPS
Your anger isn't random. It's pointing you toward something specific that matters to you. Think of it as your values GPS - it only activates when something important to you is under threat.
Advanced Exercise: Decode Your Anger Pattern
Look at your three most recent anger moments (big or small). For each one, ask:
1. What boundary was crossed? (Someone took your time? Dismissed your idea? Treated you unfairly?)
2. What did you need in that moment? (Respect? Space? To be heard? Justice?)
3. What does this tell you about what you value most?
This isn't about managing your anger - it's about understanding the wisdom it contains.
Speak your Anger Pattern Recognition
Do you get angry when people waste your time? → ‘‘I value efficiency’’
Do you get angry at unfairness? → ‘‘I value equality’’
Do you get angry when interrupted? → ‘‘I value being heard’’
Complete this sentence OUT LOUD: "My anger shows me that I deeply value _______."
You are fucking awesome!!!
This is how you reclaim your influence and power!
Part 4. Your Turn to Speak
Decode Your Personal Anger Pattern Do the Advanced Exercise: Look at your three most recent anger moments and identify what values were threatened.
In our private subscriber chat, share your discoveries:
My anger shows me that I deeply value _______"
What patterns are you noticing about your triggers?
How does it feel to connect your anger to your values instead of just feeling "bad" about being angry?
This is powerful work. You're learning to read your anger like a GPS pointing toward what matters most to you.
Practice saying your value statement out loud, then share how it felt to voice it.
Not ready to share yet? Read others' discoveries. You'll be amazed at the wisdom everyone's anger contains.
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What you get:
Private chat to explore these insights safely with encouraging feedback
Monthly group coaching to work through real situations where your values are challenged
Community of people who understand that anger can be wisdom, not just emotion
This anger series gets more powerful each week and so does the community support.
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